What to do...Will counseling help?

My wife is a very skillful debater/talker (shes a lawyer) and I am a very poor communicator (something I am working on). She can lay out 30 different things on how I am wrong or how she is right before I can even reply. I used to try and respond only to get bombarded and crushed by her views and opinions. Lately I don't even try I just let her talk and shut down. She also lives her life just as she pleases, coming and going whenever she wants, but if I want to go out with friends or even have to work late she tells me I am being a bad husband/father and should stay home. If I am having a bad day and feeling down, she tells me that it is not up to her to help me feel better and if I cant do it by myself she doesnt want to hear about it. My biggest issue with feeling bad is that when I was 15 I had a daughter who ped away at 3 mo. She doesnt care or let me go see her grave because "she and my son are my family now" I am willing to work on this marriage but dont have much more to give