What to do with a addict husband...?

long story short, the mister is addicted to ...he tells me he's stopped, but I have the "computer spy" program which tells me otherwise...and it wouldnt bother me if I wasnt putting out...but I am...we do "it" 2 - 4 four times a day...morning, whenever he comes home for lunch and then usually a couple times at night...if we only do it once (god forbid) he complains that I'm not puting out and then uses his hand...and THEN he will (after all of this) pick up the lap top when Im sleeping, in the shower, or any other free moment he has to look up xxx rated material...mind you - this happens almost EVERY day. I've told him the upsets me when we've had and that it makes me feel insecure when we do it and then he has to go look up other girls...we have a child on the way...and in every other aspect our marriage is more than great...would throwing the back in his face make him stop (maybe I should always look up "big men" ect?) Im all out of ideas..(been to counceling)